6 part Blog Series DV Why is it your Problem pt 2
Let's start here.
The first blog talked about 1 in 4 women have been in abuse. We learned how high those numbers are. Now let's look at what is happening in the Headline News!
What? Yes, Mass Shootings have one thing in common. Domestic Violence! The attackers were motivated by personal grievances and retaliating for various things like bullying, family matters, and Domestic Violence.* All the attacks were thought out and premeditated, not impulsive. As a Nation, we went through three high Profile mass shootings in four days in 2019.
According to an article in the NY Times “A common trait to for mass killers is hatred towards women.” According to Business Insider, they report, “The men behind the US's deadliest mass shootings have domestic violence — not mental illness — in common.” And according to the Mercury News, “The majority of mass killings involve domestic violence, and eight of 74 public mass shootings since 2006 involved the killing of a blood relative, the data shows.” And according to CBS News, police are in the highest risk when responding to do a domestic violence call.
This is no longer a “domestic issue or a ‘women's issue.’” This is our issue! It is not a stranger to stranger problem. This is now a neighbor to neighbor problem because so many are being impacted.
There is a discrepancy about how a MASS shooting is described the FBI defines it as a killing there 4 more people are killed not including the attacker. Other define it as 6 or more. I think the point is that there have been 217 shootings in the United States in 2019 where 4 or more people were killed at one time involving a firearm and involving 75% of family members.
Do you see how it bleeds into our society? It sparks a whole range of questions:
1. what is going on with the American Family?
2. Why are so many people so upset to the point that they are killing their own family members and then turning it on society?
3. What is happening to the men who do this?
4. What happened in their past to provide such a pain point that loss of life is the only answer?
These questions are a challenge to answer. And we know that the family unit is the fabric of a strong society. How do we as a society then reverse this trend? What if we start at the most basic level and simply love our children and build healthy relationships with them so that they, in turn, can love, nurture, and provide for their family.
Some will say that is TOO simple. It might be, but "simple" doesn't make it easy. It means that if we want to change these numbers about mass shootings we are going to have to address Domestic Violence head-on as a massive problem in our society and community. That means we have to address all parts of society and communities.
Remember that the underlying connecting factor with all of the mass shootings is Domestic Violence. And so--it is our problem and it is something that we are going to need to take care of.
Join me tonight Aug 21, 2019 at 7:30pm Central Time on my FB profile April Tribe Giauque where we will address this topic and the 6 reasons why society struggles with helping others who are trapped in Domestic Violence.
Join us next week blog the 3rd part of the 6 part series. It will continue with “What does DV Have to Do With Me?”