Guest Blog by Sandra Cooze
3 Reasons Why You Should Heal From Trauma
Living with trauma is not easy. You are always on guard; you numb your emotions to avoid getting triggered by the simplest things, and you always act as if everything is ok, even though you are slowly wilting away inside. And then, one day, you have had it. You want the pain and the constant reminder to leave; you want your life back. But then you may wonder: “What for? Is it worth going through all those memories again? What happens after I heal?”
I used to live with the trauma for many years. I know how devastating it can be. But, I have found a way to heal, and what I discovered in my journey and afterward is that you won’t know how much trauma is stopping you from truly living until you have released yourself from its grasp. Life, indeed, is impressive once you have released your trauma. And in this blog post, I am giving you three reasons to show how much healing truly can change your life.
Reason 1: Living with Trauma is not living at all – it is existing
When you live with trauma, you build your life around it. Everything that triggers you is what you avoid. You may have an excellent defense mechanism in place, and you don’t go anywhere or do anything you know will trigger a memory or an unpleasant emotion.
But the thing is, this may work for a while, and then something new triggers you, and then you add that to the list, and then another person triggers you, and you stop seeing them. And before you know it, your ability to go places and do things will become smaller, and smaller, and smaller, simply because time after time, something is going to trigger you.
Essentially, by building your life around your trauma, your trauma controls you.
As you heal from trauma, triggers will fall away, never to return. You will free yourself to feel however you want to feel. You no longer need to suppress emotions because nothing is left to suppress. You no longer have to pretend to be happy because that will become your natural state of being.
Reason 2: Trauma Suppresses Your True Authentic Self
Unconscious fears, limiting beliefs, self-sabotaging behavior, and social and generational conditioning are all forms of trauma. Everything that dims your light is, in fact, trauma. This trauma is all about what other people tell you to believe, what to think, or how to behave, and they inform you who you should be. And this conditioning suppresses who you truly are.
You will liberate your true self by releasing all the limiting beliefs, self-sabotage, unconscious fears, and generational and social conditioning. You will stand in your power, seize to doubt, and second guess yourself and your actions; you will own every word you speak and every decision you make. You will become who you were meant to be.
Reason 3: Healing From Trauma Is The Greatest Gift You Can Give Your Children
This reason, in my opinion, is the most profound, beautiful, and life-changing of all why you should heal from trauma. Trauma always runs in the family, and if you had to experience trauma, so did your parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, and so on—simply because neither of them healed.
So, by choosing to heal from trauma, you become the ancestor that will heal it for the entire family line moving forward and backward. By healing from your trauma, you will break the trauma line so that your children won’t have to experience it. And that is so powerful.
But that is not all. Children learn by example. And they will see how you heal and transform. Watching you will teach them they can overcome anything life throws them. And when they are going through tough times, you can confidently guide them because of what you have learned on your own healing journey. This will empower your children to become stable, successful, happy adults who will reach for the stars because they know they can.
Now that I talked in length about why you should heal from trauma, you are probably wondering how you can actually do it. Well, I am happy to say that I have the answer. I am the author of Journey to Your Self – How to Heal from Trauma: Written by Someone Who Did
‘\ Journey to Your Self begins with my experience of intense traumas, the moment I hit rock bottom, and from there on out successfully healed my trauma and transformed my life.
I then continue by taking you on a journey through trauma’s mysteries and its effects on your body, mind, and spirit. I point out critical trauma and trigger release factors, the importance of self-reflection, and your body’s self-healing abilities.
While unraveling the concept of trauma, I list helpful tools, leave room for notes, and encourage you to work through the unique exercises I list to support you on your healing journey.
I prove that releasing intense trauma is possible by sharing my clients’ unique stories of healing and transformation.
Trauma is not a life sentence but can be a beautiful transformation journey. And with Journey to Your Self – How to Heal from Trauma, I provide the roadmap.