By April Tribe Giauque
Because I left Domestic Violence blessing #5877: Vulnerability
Vulnerability: The New Way To Beat Shame Shadow
Are you a sur-thriver of domestic violence with a burning desire to embrace your strengths and weaknesses for growth?
Do you want to find healing in their journey from being a victim rapidly and not have to Shame Shadow shutting you down in guilt, fear, or blame?
Step 1: Watch this vulnerability podcast called “Because I left Domestic Violence blessing number 5877” right now!
Step 2: Get a head start so you can rapidly find healing in their journey from being a victim. Check out https://www.amazon.com/Out-Darkness-Find-Fuel-Light/dp/1647461359
Welcome to "Vulnerability: The New Way To Beat Shame Shadow"
April Tribe Giauque here with” Because I Left Domestic Violence podcast” for every sur-thriver of domestic violence who wants to embrace your strengths and weaknesses for growth and find healing in their journey from being a victim without having the Shame Shadow shut you down in guilt, fear, or blame.
Here's what you need to know.
Secret #1 - Share Your Pain With The Right People
* It is one thing to be vulnerable without knowing how to recover from it. I think it can even be a bit of peer pressure to “open up and be vulnerable” before we know that we can recover from it.
* Peers watch it happen, and then many will leave you there, and where you thought it was a safe place to open up and try out your vulnerability, you soon find out that you did it in front of Hecklers and not real people who love you. (Remember Chapter 7--yes, Hecklers are no good).
Secret #2 - Growth In Vulnerability
* Why do we need to be vulnerable to grow? Because being vulnerable means opening yourself up to all sorts of opinions, critics, pain, and even deep truths. Who wants that?
* Well, honestly, many of us do when we see people who are brave enough to be vulnerable; we see that they are showing amazing courage and wish that we too could be like that.
* For example, in my mastermind group, I am willing to ask the questions that leave me exposed as someone who doesn’t know enough. That is a weakness that someone could attack and penetrate—some have over the years.
* When that happens, I usually stay quiet and end up missing more information which keeps me weak, and I’m not growing.
Secret #3 - How To Have Courage To Be Vulnerable?
* You choose to do it. I know it almost always comes down to choosing and stepping forward to do it.
* We are given strengths and weaknesses which is the very crux of what being vulnerable is.
* We can experience great fear and great faith, the deepest pain and the highest joy, and tangles of lies and the absolute truth.
* Being vulnerable is about our weaknesses and our strengths. I have weaknesses, but I can be brave enough to face them and take action to strengthen them in order to grow.
* Showing courage is to know that there will be a pain, there will be a risk, and possibly, there will be failure involved, but doing it anyway.
* By looking at the choices given to you and thinking, “I want to jump to the next level” you must be willing to take the risk to learn and grow socially, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, or even physically--even when through that growing pain we are filled with doubt, second guess our decisions, want to quit, and we have so much fear.
So, here are the big takeaways for every sur-thriver of domestic violence:
1. Just as we choose to be vulnerable as our weaknesses are exposed, we start to learn. If we look at our failures as learning, we can gain wisdom and perspective quickly, leading us to rely on our strengths as our weaknesses become stronger!
2. Soon after enough exposure to life experiences in the Learning Zone (chapter 3 of my book Out of Darkness), we can change our weaknesses into strengths.
3. Now, THAT is quite the payoff for being vulnerable.
The point here is that you can embrace your strengths and weaknesses for growth without having to Shame Shadow shutting you down in guilt, fear, or blame.
Before I forget, if you're one of those sur-thrivers of domestic violence which is excited to take this to the next level, may I suggest that you get the book for less than $10. WOW! Investing $10 to change your life? That's a deal.
This makes it easy for you to embrace your strengths and weaknesses for growth without having to Shame Shadow shutting you down in guilt, fear, or blame!
Watch it at 3:30 pm Mountain.